People talked about it always, since the beginning of time. All religious people said: "We come alone to this world, and leave it alone." All unity is an illusion. The very idea of unity, of commonality comes from feeling lonely, and loneliness hurts. We want to drown our loneliness in a relationship. That is why we are so deeply involved in love. Try to understand. Usually we think that we fall in love with a man or woman because he or she is beautiful. It is not true. The truth is just the opposite – we fall in love, because we cannot stand being alone. We want to fall in love because one way or another we want to run away from ourselves. There are also people who do not fall in love with women or men. They fall in love with money. They move towards money or power, they become politicians. This is also done in order to avoid loneliness.
If you look at a person, if you look deep into yourself, you will be surprised – the reason for all your activities is the same. That reason is you being afraid of feeling lonely. Everything else is just an excuse. The real reason is that you feel very lonely.
One magical evening you will meet your chosen one, a perfect person who will live up to all your expectations and fulfill all your dreams. Right? No! This fantasy, spread around by poets and songwriters, is rooted in the memory of the bosom, where we felt safe, where we were “the one” with our mother. It is not surprising that we so want to always return there, no matter how old we are. In fact, it is just a childhood dream. It is amazing, though, how stubbornly we cling to it in the face of reality!
Nobody, including your current partner or some prince from a fairytale, can bring you happiness on a silver platter. Nobody can do that, even if they want to. True love does not come from trying to solve our problems by depending on another person, but it comes from developing our inner wealth and maturity. Then we will have so much love to give that we will naturally attract loving people into our lives.